Change occurs on a regular basis whether we want it to or not.
The economy changes, business environments change, the weather changes, team dynamics change, relationships change and so on. Life is about change. And if we resist change, then we’re limiting the greatness of life in all that it has to offer us.
Why, then, do we tend to resist change?
One reason we avoid change is because, in order to meet it in a positive and effective manner, we must change, too. Also, we become comfortable in our current position, even if it’s not working for us in the creation of our happiness and success. Another reason we resist change is that we have the tendency to focus on how hard change will be and the possible negative outcomes — typically assumptions based on our fear of the unknown.
Basically, we avoid change because we focus on what we perceive as the downside of change.
Human beings are amazing in what they can accomplish once they open their minds to possibility and then decide to take action. Change is much easier when we choose to see it in a positive light. As we embrace change, we alter our perception of it from a “bad” thing to a “good” thing.
If your business has stalled or is failing, your relationships aren’t fulfilling or your health is declining, to name only a few, you can use your awareness of these facts to face reality. While you might be “comfortable” in your current situation, your resistance to change diminishes your happiness and success a little more each day.
Self-honesty is a vital ingredient in choosing to make a change. As you become conscious of the negative feelings — the pain and undesirable results of your choice not to change — that discomfort helps propel you forward. We all reach a point where we “can’t take it anymore,” and getting real with yourself will help you reach this threshold sooner, saving precious time in creating a reality you do find pleasing.
In our tendency to focus on the “difficulties” of change rather than on the benefits of it, we stop ourselves from taking action. This must be overcome if our intention is to experience increased happiness and success.
In my coaching work, I show people how their thought and behavior patterns work against what they want — how they’re actually working against themselves. Then, we explore new thoughts and behaviors that will allow them to change their reality in very positive ways. The focus here is on the actual reasons for making a change and the multitude of benefits for doing so.
One example of this is clearing clutter from your desk and office and getting organized. If you walk into your office and feel heavy and have an aversion to doing so because of the mess and disorganization, then a change is in order.
Typically, the reason your office space is in this state of chaos is because you have a habit of putting things off, a habit that works against your happiness and success. Most likely, you haven’t gotten real with yourself about how terrible it feels and how it’s diminishing your efficiency. Instead, you’re focusing on how much work it will take, wondering if you can you even do it or if will it really make that much of a difference.
I encourage you to take the exact opposite approach. As you turn your attention away from what appears to be at first the overwhelming effort involved in creating positive change and instead focus on all the benefits of it, you’ll take on the change with an energy that makes the effort seem a lot less daunting than originally perceived. In other words, you eliminate a major barrier to change by focusing on how it will improve your situation.
Change is inevitable. Imagine how powerful and freeing it will be when you’re no longer paralyzed by change! If you’re not pleased with the way things are going, choose to make a change in you first — in how you perceive change. By doing so, you position yourself to take the actions that will improve your current situation so you will experience higher levels of happiness and success.